No one likes to be alone. Everybody is looking for the second half in their life. It’s not that obvious how to find the right partner. Have a quick read what on of the very young girls – Rachel asked and what response she got.
Rachel asks: “I can’t get a hot guy to talk to me, no matter what I do. They only want to talk to the really gorgeous girls, which I’m not. I’m not ugly though, and I think I’m a pretty cool person with a lot to offer. What do I have to do to get a cute, great guy interested in me?”
Ah, Rachel. I think most young women (and men, for that matter) ask a similar question at some point in their in their youth. Actually, that’s not true: I think we all wonder at times why, for whatever reason, some people are more attracted to other people than they are us. I’ve spoken to women in every age bracket with some variation of this question, so I don’t think you’re alone in your quest or frustration, nor do I think it an unusual one. If anything, it takes courage to ask something so raw, and for that I applaud you.
To the meat of your question however, there are two answers I can give you:
- If someone doesn’t think you’re amazing, it’s time to focus on the people who think you are; and
- Physical attraction is only one aspect of a romantic relationship, and although very important, not the only factor you need to look at when “trying to get a guy to talk to you”.
Let me clarify a bit, starting with the first point. For those of us who aren’t stunningly beautiful, who don’t stop cars on the street or who don’t sport movie-star looks when we roll out of bed, we have to do more than just look good to attract someone. In my opinion, that’s a good thing. I’d much rather that someone found me hot because of the way my mind works, how I raise my children, or a twinkle in my eye than my physicality. We look different as we age, and our bodies will likely not remain the same either, so if someone finds me interesting or “hot”, I hope it’s because of who I am as a person and something that probably won’t change much. In turn, I look for these same qualities in anyone I’ve dated, because they have to sport more than just a great body or a pretty face for me to find them attractive….
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